The short story Sexy written by Jhumpa Lahiri dives deep into how the world interprets the word sexy. In doing so we get a glimpse at what true love really is as we read about what love isn’t. Miranda thinks that Dev loves her and that she loves him. But the truth is, that is not love.
In this story Miranda meets a married man, named Dev, who begins to have frequent affairs with her. When he calls her sexy we get a glimpse at how she interprets the word sexy. She immediately goes out searching for lingerie and other clothing that will help her feel more sexy. The way Miranda interpreted the word sexy is as an endearing term that meant that this man thought she was attractive and that he loved her. But then, a young boy whose father recently had an affair told Miranda that sexy means loving someone you don’t know. This is what finally gets Miranda to realize that Dev doesn’t really love her. When he called her sexy that wasn’t really him saying that he loved her. It was him saying that he doesn’t know her, but he thinks she is sexually attractive. This isn’t true love!
So what is true love? I think Elder Jeffery R Holland explained it best in his conference address titles Place no more for the enemy of my soul He says “True love endures. But lust changes as quickly as it can turn a pornographic page or glance at yet another potential object for gratification walking by, male or female. True love we are absolutely giddy about—as I am about Sister Holland; we shout it from the housetops. But lust is characterized by shame and stealth and is almost pathologically clandestine—the later and darker the hour the better, with a double-bolted door just in case. Love makes us instinctively reach out to God and other people. Lust, on the other hand, is anything but godly and celebrates self-indulgence. Love comes with open hands and open heart; lust comes with only an open appetite.”
I never have liked the word sexy. The word objectifies women in a way that is honestly more downgrading than it is endearing. It’s all about lust. It’s just finding someone that we don’t know who can meet our needs. This is exactly what this story shows us. But true love goes much deeper than ones body. Just recently I came across a post on instagram that caught my attention and I felt like it is a great example of what love really looks like. The post said this “You don’t fall in love with a body, you fall in love with a soul. And once in love with a soul, everything about that body becomes beautiful.”
Something else I want to add is that the issue of lust has just become more and more of an issue with technology. The story only shows what this looks like when to people physically meet up. But now days there are so many ways to fulfill our lustful desires by just going online. But again, this is not love. This is the problem that we have in our world today. It’s one that we have always dealt with, but with technology it is only getting bigger.